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Monday, December 15, 2008

How to Detect Lies..!!!

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Introduction to Detecting Lies:

The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.

Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.

Signs of Deception:

Body Language of Lies:

• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.
• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.
• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction:

• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expression s and words.

Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expression s don't match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying "I love you."
• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions:

• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.
• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content:

• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, "Did you eat the last cookie?" The liar answers, "No, I did not eat the last cookie."
•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: " I didn't do it" instead of "I did not do it"
• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.
• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.
• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized

Other signs of a lie:

• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
Final Notes:

Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons

Monday, December 8, 2008

The Munchkins and Me...!!

There are many parents who would never imagine that their child doesn't have the nerve to talk with them. When I first created my school programs more than twenty years ago, I was amazed at how many thousands of children told me they felt this way and hadn't let their parents know.

If your child had the chance to write his or her feelings anonymously about how you relate to each other, what do you think he or she would express? How close do you think your child feels to you? How close do you feel to your child?

Maybe you've never had the closeness with your own parent that you'd like to have with your child. Maybe you find it difficult to talk about your own feelings. Maybe it's even hard for you to say, "I love you". Over the years I have met so many parents and children who told me they couldn't.

Even with the best parent/child relationships, everything is always changing. Nothing can be taken for granted. Figure that anything you share in a positive, loving manner will have a ripple effect. Being close with your child can be a life-changing, fulfilling, enriching lifetime endeavor. I can't think of a more important role as a parent.

I don't know your child. (Maybe you feel like you don't know your child, either!) However, I believe it's possible for parents to get closer to their children. The ability to work at developing a closer relationship with our children is a process that parents and children can work at and grow with over time.

No matter how difficult things might seem, keep in mind that most children wish they could be closer with their parents. Even when things go horribly wrong, those can be the most important growth experiences. So don't be too hard on yourself. Go slowly, and take things one step at a time. Think of this process as an adventure. Anything you do to try to improve your relationship with your child is wonderful. Your efforts to communicate more openly and become closer can have lifetime benefits for your child, as well as for yourself.

Whether we have one child or ten, we can only attempt to embrace, love, and appreciate each child to the best of our ability. The interaction with each child is going to be different. And certainly, each of our children will have his or her own perception of who we are and how we respond to them. There are many issues related to child and parents which need to be addressed.These issues are beautifully given in this The Munchkins and Me site.

An Unusual Commet..!!

I was doing my usual blog update process then i came across 2 comments unmoderated in my blog. Mostly i don't care about comments but this comment was unusual and was different from all other comments. So i was forced to read its details. So i thought of walking to this blog The Cricket Ahead . Its has good numbers of updates and gadgets to update information about cricket and also few reviews about PAK's fate in cricket. i liked the posts and gadgets and i wish him good luck about his blog.. and also i ask everyone of you who are reading this post to visit this blog and encourage the blogger...!
Here is a snap of comments from this blogger...
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